Continuing from here.
J – Are you outed as a fan among your family and friends?
Depends. Unfortunately I am one of those people who just find it hard to keep things to herself. The indiscretion does not apply to secrets entrusted into my care – I’ll happily take those to my grave. But when it comes to my own sensitivities, I tend to come forth rather quickly. Mainly because I have this need to discuss the things that capture my attention, no matter whether it is a book I have read, a play I have seen, a hobby I am obsessed with or a political issue I am interested in. Or some bloke from the entertainment biz who has utterly captured my heart.
So I was unable to keep my family from discovering that I had taken a deep interest in a particular actor. I mean – all that sudden interest in a 75-year-old children’s book was going to look incongruous after ignoring the fantasy genre for most of my life… Or the short weekend trips abroad to stand outside in the winter cold at the red carpet. And then there was the sudden appearance of that “Mrs Richard Armitage” mug in the kitchen…
So yes, my immediate family knows. And so do some of my friends. Some people know that I have a “favourite actor”. They may not know, however, how deeply I am engaged with the whole fandom thing. Not because I am embarrassed – but because I simply know that some friends can not understand why I should spend time, energy and money on ‘being a silly fan’. I don’t enjoy facing such prejudices, and I am tired of having to explain that being an enthusiastic, committed, active fan does not equal stalking. I wouldn’t ask a dedicated soccer fan for justification of their hobby – and I hate having to explain *my* hobby. So by and large I leave it at “I like this actor.” And I fangirl in undisturbed happiness.