A couple more tweets. Twee.
“I can’t step forward without invitation.” 🧛♂️
Also explains the good looks.
Other than that: problematic tweets. I find it interesting how different they are perceived by different people.
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The vampire suggestion was brilliant. Otherwise I’m so very torn. I don’t know the bloke,obviously, so it’s impossible to say what he’s after. If he was a friend- part of me who be giving him a shake and the other part would be feeling horribly sad that he’s using the word ‘fail’.
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Great example for what I said about perceiving the tweets differently. I have to say I feel no pity for him at all. He is 48. He has been in the business for 30 years. Own it.
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Own it and yourself! Find who you are and be him.
What’s the saying? Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter won’t mind.
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Oh, I had never heard that saying. Sounds really good – and is very true.
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It’s not pity,(or APM) just that as someone (me) who most their life has dealt with horrific low self esteem ,I find it hard not to worry or feel sad when anybody uses language like that.
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I understand that. Low self-esteem is something that I am very familiar with. And yet I am convinced that the key to dealing with that, lies within myself, and not in seeking validation from people I do not know.
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I have to agree with you, Rachel. My immediate reaction to these tweets is one of recognition. If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so are success and failure. To me he is honestly expressing his appreciation of a culture very, very different from the two he has lived in, and his feelings that he wishes he had been able to push harder in his career. How many of us have wished that he’d had better breaks, attained more success or snagged “the” role? I’m guessing he feels the same way and I’m not surprised to hear him say it. But, as usual, all we can do is project our own feelings onto the cipher that is our beautiful man.
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Thank you LoLo very well said!
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Rachel you are a kind and compassionate person and to me that is the human “decent” approach
I’m heart breaks that he feels like this but I can completely relate to him. We are our own worst enemy . Nothing somebody says to me is as bad as what I think of myself. It’s being mean and bullying others I simply do not get.
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For me, he’s not looking for pity, but rather, recognition and empathy. But as you say, it’s all down to our own perceptions, and lord knows RA is hardly the first celebrity to tweet out baffling emotional stuffs and not even close to the first man to find himself wondering what the fuck is going on in his life as he approaches 50
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LoLo I don’t think he’s even looking for empathy I think I empathize with him as do and Rachel because we can relate to how he feels. I think it’s more your last sentence connecting w his fans on a human level emotional level and I for one am glad. Age has nothing to do with it.
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It is so interesting – you are all honing in on the whole “fail” issue. It just proves that we are definitely always guided by what resonates most with our own reality of life. So yeah, that was not what I find problematic in his tweets, as much as I can sympathise with lack of self-esteem.
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Do you feel that he’s trying too hard to be liked, G? That he’s being deliberately disingenuous? There’s absolutely a smidge of irritation in that regard for me as well, regardless of how I feel otherwise. You absolutely hit the nail on the head, I think, that we are guided by what resonates the most with us.
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Yes, I think he is trying too hard to be liked. Understandable. But absolutely not something that can be ever achieved. You cannot be liked by *everybody*, and it is impossible to satisfy all expectations.
I very much respect him that he is trying to lead by example. That’s how I take his current moralising phase – he is preaching a message of mutual respect and is advocating empathy and politeness and all that. That is all wonderful and good. He is putting his tweets where his mouth is, so to speak. But he fails to see who his audience are. If he is preaching ‘take a step back’ or ‘turn the other cheek’, he is telling that to an audience that is by default already disadvantaged by being female and therefore relegated to the second row and to acceptance. We need to be empowered, not appeased.
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Excellently said. I’d forgotten about that colossally stupid “turn the other cheek” tweet, and I even wrote a “RL with RA” episode about it! As far as knowing his audience, it wouldn’t hurt for the daft man to get more on board with the fact that 98% of us are women and, as you point out, be more cognizant and respectful of *that*.
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I guess I would rather have Richard as humble and honest even on Social media then arrogant and an asshole thinking he is loftier than everybody else. I think it goes to upbringing and his mum he has said was polite and cared for others. If he tweets just his work stuff and we have no idea how he is really feeling like last fall then people gripe. If he tweets he is “failing himself” whatever he means by that then people gripe he’s being disingenuous. No I think he’s being honest which I find refreshing. And I wish 98% of women were confident. I think he is highly respectful to women so I’m not sure what you mean there.
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I don’t think that the opposite of humble and honest is necessarily arrogant and asshole.
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ok sorry conceited and apathetic.??
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No, I meant to say that he doesn’t *have to* always play the humble and honest guy. He can also be proud of his achievements and treat himself and his perceived failings with dignified integrity. Owning it + learning from it = winning.
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Ahh but see maybe he can’t do that. It is hard even when you get praise he (like me) may find it hard to accept it. Yes be grateful for it but to accept it a whole other story. I think he walks a fine line between needing praise but also wanting to be alone and secluded. I understand that too,. I am the same way. It make me feel good when people praise me although I am not looking for that but I also am leery of people now so he may have trust issues also. His mum might have been his beacon and now he’s left all alone. And yes I totally agree with you it’s all speculation on our part. I would hope he is being sincere and not a mind fuck.
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We can agree on one thing: we are speculating. On many things. None of us KNOW. Who knows, maybe this is all part of a masterplan.
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Ahh Guylty as Madonna said on Dick Clark’s American Bandstand when he ask her what she wanted to accomplish she replied “to rule the world!”
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She failed miserably, though.
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Well I am disappointed how her career has gone in the 2000s but in the 1980s and 1990s no I think she paved the way for many strong women. But I was being cheeky from your funny and insightful comment on Richard…
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There have been a few incidents here and there – and a lot of tweet-deleting – that have made me really angry. However, at the end of the day there is this: It’s entertainment, baby. As much as I enjoy looking at Richard and consuming anything he produces – he is not my husband or my father; he doesn’t get to tell me what to do. Just like I don’t get to tell *him* what to do. I accept that he just isn’t up to speed with feminism and that he doesn’t share my opinions. It’s a bit disappointing, but I’ll survive that.
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Well said! We wish him well and enjoy him immensely but at the end of the day, we have our real lives.
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Finally, after all these years iwondering why he didn’t get better/bigger/ roles, we find out it’s because he doesn’t like to put himself forward? Doesn’t he have an agent to be aggressive for him? Yes, I have sympathy for his apparent low self esteem, most of us have struggled with that in our lives and it sucks. But I also think he might have gotten over it a bit by now. Maybe the reason he wants to have a production company is so he can hire himself.
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I am a bit surprised, too, that he takes the blame for not getting roles. Surely, the business is pretty fickle, anyway? And even *with* an aggressive agent, there are more things that aptitude that determine whether you get a role or not. Sleeping over the whole story, and with a bit of distance, I am now seeing his tweets a tad less whiny than they came across to me yesterday. Maybe he just wanted to make himself “one of us” again. However, it fits with some of the things he has said in the past, most notably at RDC5 where he also somewhat riffed on the low self-esteem theme. Going into production will definitely help, not least because he openly said at RDC that he is going to continue acting in front of the camera.
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Rachel I don’t like his choice of word fail either.
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First everyone matters that is where bullying and being mean is a problem
Second I think he is incredibly humble and for him to tweet that out there is brave!
Third I suffer from low self esteem and can completely relate to his tweets! I can see how being bullied and people not being nice to you affects you even years decades later. So congrats to all people who are immune to it but for the reality here being humble and modest and waiting to be invited are all positive traits in my book. What I still am hung up on is his politically rude tweet from July 2. But being honest and humble are qualities I adore the most about him.
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Look, I sympathise with him. I sure do. But I am not honing in on the whole “fail in Hollywood” implication. He’s said that more than once, and it is an ongoing problem that only *he* has the power to resolve.
It’s his remarks on Korean culture that keep me thinking. I think the message of “respect” and “always letting others go first” is highly problematic, especially when it is directed at WOMEN who do this ANYWAY. We routinely let others DISrespect us and step back in anticipation. That is not something we should celebrate. I do not want my daughter to feel like a second class citizen because of her gender.
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First Guylty you are a giver and I think teach your daughter to respect all people and not intentionally be mean
Second I think your daughter would be accountable for her actions if she said something rude or mean and not be more concerned what others around her thought than the pain inflicted
Third I think you are very strong and lead by example and your daughter would not consider herself a second class citizens if she put others first or case from a We view
Fourth mean behavior women attacking women women on social media, blogs, in real life is horrible and appealing to me let’s focus on stopping that. You don’t have to like everyone but everyone matters.
Finally Keanu Reeves comes to mind as another actor who is shy and reserved but I think he surrounds himself w positive people and I think that is lacking for Richard. I am eternally grateful for all the positive people in my life. Toxic people are dead weight.!
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Keanu is doing well for not being on Twitter. I like that about him.
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Guylty my side crush shares many similarities with Richard but Keanu is more centered, more balanced because he also has a publishing company now, a successful Arch Motor Cycle company and he surrounds himself as a singleton with people that are positive. He’s had heart breaks and he is close to his mum and sisters but he knows the division between privacy and public persona and he is much more adept at handling that than Richard is,. I am sooo happy KR is not on Twitter!!
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Michele, do you ever watch an American TV show called “Mom,” starring Anna Faris and Allison Janney? I find it to be a wonderfully funny, relatable show that discusses how we all have deep issues that we need to work on. In an early episode, Christie goes to an AA meeting and tells Margery, who will eventually become her sponsor, that she’s had a horrible day because everyone around her is an asshole. Margery responds that when she herself has that kind of day, she realizes that it’s usually because *she* is the asshole (sorry for the language, Richard, but that’s what they say). It’s a point well worth thinking about.
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Lolo I haven’t seen Mom although it has been on for awhile. I think someone is being an asshole if they disrespect intentionally or unintentionally or are mean to others. So yes Richard I think was being an ass to Luisa on July 2 although some my friends who I love dearly will dispute that with me but overall I think and not to put him on a pedestal he does engage in polite modest behavior. I would hope you do, that I do that “decent” behavior would dictate that. Many don’t so if that is your point yep I agree with you there. SM is a prime example of that. Thank goodness the blogs I participate in are welcoming of diverse opinions.
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Actually, I wasn’t referring to Richard or his actions with the note about the Mom episode, but rather, your comment about women attacking other women.
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oh ok. I hope it never happens to you. Its a horrible feeling especially for someone with self esteem issues to begin with. Ask Millie Bobby Brown ask Kelly Tran ask any woman bullied unprovoked.. sad really
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i don’t think he thought of it from that perspective, but just from his comparative experience of how he is being dealt with in different circumstances, surroundings and places. I don’t think consideration for others or your impact on others is incompatible with feminism. Quite the contrary, if the male world would be more self conscious of their impact, their behaviour, if they considered others at least at the same time as themselves, we’d be in a different place. I think there are things to consider, exchange and ponder about in our me-me-me world vs other traditions, just as there is modernity and creativity and other attributes and sources of happiness and an accomplished life to be considered in traditionally ordered and more ruled environments.
But i think this has nothing to do with such a grand scale consideration, it’s just a reaction to a different kind of on to one or even one to many interaction. He expressed equal amounts of relief, pleasure about Berlin if we think about it for some very similar reasons, interactions which are slightly more formal, more ordered, in environments which grant a sort of anonymity or don’t push the boundaries of work relationships too far too soon. And where personal space is paramount, much more than round here. It’s much more extreme as a difference but some of it similar in nature. Strictly from a business perspective i was much more at peace and in a unintrusive respectful place at work in German than i was in other places.
Shrugs, it’s just a reaction after all.
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IDK, if I had 250k followers, I think I would be a bit more aware of my audience. Heck, I am aware of my audience even with 600 followers (had to check the number – I don’t dwell on this day by day, or count it every morning). And sorry, but I do expect from *him* what he preaches to *us*. He has said it often enough that people need to have empathy. I don’t find it particularly insightful (considering that gender equality is far from achieved) to tell an audience *predominantly* female that it is desirable to bow, be silent, and let others go first. If he only referred to his own life as a celeb who otherwise gets jostled, ogled and pushed around and he therefore enjoys the restraint he is being treated with in Asia, then I would have preferred if he had qualified his statement accordingly.
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i definitely don’t think he thinks about the audience too much, or tries to avoid, i suspect pondering it makes him highly uncomfortable, especially the all female aspect, increasingly younger in age, etc. I admit if i spent any time at all thinking about who might or is reading me, i’d close my account pronto. I generally don’t think he spends much time thinking about how different people in the audience might interpret what he says, proof that he is often surprised by it and retracts what he said when it causes upset or divergence. Maybe, like some of us he just sort of feels a connection to a generic audience out there on twitter and just airs impressions. Almost spur of the moment reaction if you will. And yes, obviously directed at fans in certain related circumstances like work related travel and such. Dunno really, just know that as soon as start thinking and considering everything i say or individual reactions i start doubting it and either delete or not post. It’s weird, i think sometimes we treat twitter like a listening sort of audience, who’d go, aha and just listen. When in effect it’s more like a market place , and agora where everyone will give you their opinion and reaction even if that wasn’t necessarily your intention.
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No, the obvious reaction to knowing that you have an audience is *not* closing your account or being silent. It is understanding your audience – and using the appropriate words and message.
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If you are a public figure, and decide to be a public figure on social media. Me, as a private person who doesn’t have to take on that kind of role and certainly is not under pressure from my job to do so, could well decide to. I feel way less comfortable debating my thoughts in public, even sharing my vulnerabilities in public. I mostly choose not to.
I was saying to S, on ruminating a bit more on it, mostly to distract myself from my own very adult problems, maybe it is an attempt to actually connect with those younger fans. In this world of mindfulness or acknowledgment and recognition of the important of mental health, maybe he was actually trying to say anyone can still be vulnerable and insure. Was also saying on that same train of thought, that while that disclosure is important, we don’t become invincible as we age, it’s important to maybe show young people that the path to adulthood means also learning to cope with it, learning to tools to surpass vulnerabilities or don’t let them cripple you etc. While at the same time considering the vulnerabilities of people around you. I still think they’re not mutually exclusive. And boy can adults behave like small children and be hurtful… very present tense.
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Hariclea thank you for saying all of that. very true..
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I point out again here that I do not find his admission of vulnerability problematic. THat’s NOT what I am talking about, and I do not want to be misunderstood that way. My issue is with a message that comes across to ME as advertising subservience to an audience that is in need of empowerment.
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i think we’re going to wait long and hard for a message that talks of empowerment and getting out there; that’s just not and never will be him and i think it feels so alien to him on top of everything that he wouldn’t even know how to begin going about it; partly also because he’s probably never been anything but respectful towards for example female co-workers. But, he doesn’t have a sister, or a niece or any young female relatives struggling with work-life say. I suspect it’s hard to see or understand the detail when you simply don’t have any experience of it whatsoever. Not an excuse, just reality i suspect.
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Just one word. Empathy.
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Theory is good, experience is better 😉 :-p
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I wonder what he perceives himself to be failing at? He’s constantly employed, worshipped worldwide (surely the Korea greeting showed him that!) and respected by colleagues and fans alike.
There’s no telling what poor self esteem can do. I also think that because he’s quite a romantic spirit he has a ‘never good enough’ kind of philosophy where you are always chasing the next great thing and never satisfied.
Among other things I’d like to do to him, I’d like to shake some sense into him.
– Hebe
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Hebe I like your phrase “romantic spirit” I wish he would do romantic roles again! As I said maybe failing is a bad word choice for him to have used but low self esteem is a constant battle and everyone that I know who has it are kind, compassionate and humble people who look at the world from a We vs Me mentality. IMO Richard is a We kind of guy ! ❤️👏😘
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Bingo. I think some of this is about perspective. I understand that he has high expectations of himself, and that is an admirable quality. I am just a bit taken aback that he is airing his doubts publicly. By implication he is also saying that what he has, is not enough. Does that extend to his friendships? His previous starring roles? His fandom? Are/were they not (good) enough?
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I perceive him as saying that his career to date has not been enough in quantity, as far as what he had hoped he would have achieved by now. Perhaps he wanted to do more theater, more movies, more TV in which his character doesn’t die, lol. I didn’t think he was referring to his friendships or fandom, since he mentions his profession specifically, but I could be wrong. I think part of the problem is the whole nature of tweeting; one simply doesn’t have the room to express oneself fully. You can write tomes on Instagram, as the celebrities who complain about cheating partners or hint that they are about to harm themselves, do (talk about airing things publicly), but as we have all struggled with, getting your meaning across in so few characters is virtually impossible. I love that we are able to go into such detail on your blog, G. Having these discussions is so great.
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Guylty and Lolo I took his whole tweets about “failing” as himself concern him personally not necessarily his career. That he is striving to better himself. Why air it publically (Pete Davidson airing on IG about potential self harm set off many alarm bells if that is who you were referring to) ? I don’t know. I think he is lonely, maybe a bit depressed still, maybe he is having a moment of clarity although I wish he were more like this on July 2 with his political self-righteousness.. At the risk of getting hit yet again I will say there are reasons Keanu is not on SM and Richard feels he has to be. I would rather take Richard as honest and humble and if people feel he is being disingenuous then he needs to get off of SM now.
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I don’t think he is disingenuous. I just believe he doesn’t think through what he is writing. But in general I have a less rosy view of him as many others. I just think he is man. Not a god. He has a good life. A good career. The same demons as everyone else. Makes mistakes. Whether he is really honest – who can say that when we don’t know him personally?
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Yes very true.. good points there..
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Very similar views here. He is not a god, just a hard working guy with lots of faithful and interested followers. Most of the time I am surprised by what he posts. As a very shy person myself, it is easier to write some more in depth feelings. I just wish him well. Don’t agree with most of his politics, but everybody has their own pov and why the got there. I like watching his journey and think he’s handling things very well overall.
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Surprised by what he posts indeed 😅. I just wanna crush on Armitage – he doesn’t always make it easy. But then that makes him interesting. I like a challenge.
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Indeed – I enjoy the discussion aspect, too. As long as we are all respectful *hahahaha* (thank you Richard *mwah*).
No, but seriously – of course the things our movie boyfriend does and says are highly emotionally charged for us as fans. Sometimes it is difficult to discuss him and his opinions and actions unemotionally. I just hope we can exchange opinions here without getting upset with each other. I always feel as if I have to point out to readers that despite my occasional criticism of him – I think he is the bee’s knees, and that all goes without saying. I do not mean him any harm, I love what he is doing on stage and on screen. I think he is a lovely man, the type of person (of any gender) that I would like to have as a friend. (And when it comes to the male gender – as a boyfriend *haha*.) When I delve into his statements a bit deeper, I do so because I CARE. If I hated him, I wouldn’t give a toss about his opinion.
Sorry, that was a complete tangent. Back to your comment – good point re. the missed achievements that he seemed to refer to. As for me extending the “fail” to friendships and fandoms – that was just me thinking a step further. Possibly unfairly so.
You know, ultimately I think that RA often doesn’t think about the consequences of his statements. I often feel that he just hasn’t thought it through, and just followed an impulse. (His tweet about the LibDem MEP last week a case in point.)
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Guylty I would like to add that because we do CARE about him and for some of us his self-doubts and insecurities resonate a lot that chatting about those issues here is wonderful and safe and respectful. I’m glad if you are critical about him. If you point out his flaws and his attributes he’s human. He’s not being put on a pedestal and inevitably these discussions are at least for me enlightening and educational. I often feel oh good it’s not just me that feels a certain way. So thank you for providing a forum for everyone to freely speak.
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There is a lot there that resonates. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. It just slightly worries me that he doesn’t really get any true, balanced feedback on what he says. The slightly more nuanced reactions never filter through – or are drowned out. *If* he looks at his Twitter replies at all, what kind of picture does he get of himself?
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Well he does look at Twitter replies somewhat doesn’t he because he follows Perry now. Didn’t he like Young’s tweet last week?
I don’t know really that is foreign to me on purpose to be honest..
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Yes he did. I can’t understand why he suddenly has broken with his principles so far. I thought they always served him well. *shrugs* Well, I guess it must be his self-imposed “Fandom Glasnost”.
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“Fandom Glasnost” brilliant brilliant Guylty! Way to go sweet mimosa!!!
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We have just dated ourselves. 😭
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Yes but that you know Glasnost you are just fab in my book!!! You also gave me a blog post idea so thank you for that!!
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Oh, absolutely we all love that adorkable man! I think you are correct that he probably tends to be impulsive, hence his (odious) habit of deleting tweets when he has thought things through a bit more.
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Yep – case in point.
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I also see these tweets from our beautiful man through the lens of my own still-fresh grief. To be blunt, losing my brother and father has fucked with my head in a way that I never expected. Never. I feel *all the time* that I am failing at the tests that life has thrown at me, and that I will never be able to succeed. Whether it’s work, keeping in touch with the dear friends who mean so much to me (like y’all), being able to care for my remaining family…even keeping my head above water financially and healthwise. It’s all so much more fraught now, and deeply painful. Again, I am projecting onto a man I don’t know and will never meet. But I’m thinking it might be a smidge true, and who knows? He could feel completely different tomorrow. I just feel it’s nice that he *seems* to be more comfortable expressing his emotions on social media. It feels like he is trying to connect with his fans again, to let us in a little bit beyond the publicizing of his latest projects.
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LoLo – I find it so much easier to feel compassion with *you* when I read what you are saying here. And that is actually the key to my issue with his tweets: I don’t have (that much) compassion for him because he is writing from the position of a privileged man. I don’t mean to negate his feelings – if he feels like a failure or if he struggles with lack of self-esteem, then those feelings are real and difficult and I am sorry he feels that way. But from my perspective he is what we call “jammern auf hohem Niveau” in German – complaining on a high comfort level. And I am just wondering why he is doing that – on social media. I just wish his message was more empowering. As I wrote above in another comment – I do not think that turning the other cheek is the solution.
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These kind of “humble” tweets that he’s prone to make from time to time just leave me feeling a bit icky. Not sure what he wants – our sympathy? Personally I think he must be a bit lonely and bored because he’s tweeted his hotel details! Let’s hope the fans answer the “call” and mob him. 😆
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Yep. I will be honest and admit that tweets like those do not match with my idea of fantasy Richard. )Yes, I am aware that my understanding of him is my own, individual fantasy of him, and that there is no reason or indication to think that he is *actually* like that.) I don’t mind vulnerability or admissions of mistakes and failures. They are all part of life, for men and women. I am just suspicious of any fishing for sympathy. And surely he must know that an admission of feeling he has ‘failed’ will elicit exactly that kind of reaction.
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I guess the fishing for sympathy thing doesn’t bother me *too* much. At least not yet. Maybe I simply haven’t been in the fandom long enough to see him do it often enough to irritate me. Maybe, being in Los Los Angeles, I’m too inured to the gut-churning emotional confessions that celebrities use social media for, for his very mild versions to register on me. If he played for sympathy all the time, that would probably be as close to a dealbreaker with him as I could get (politics, violence, etc., aside).
I, too, find it weird that he tweeted his flight info and now the location of his hotel. Is it just another way to drum up support for this new project? Is he cynically using social media again to publicize what he’s working on, like all that stupid bs about being a cable-cutter? That, that I do not like at all. Tbh, I’d much rather it is because he’s lonely or bored or simply got an attack of “celebrity head” and wants to be surrounded by adoring fans. We all do stupid things when we’re lonely, whatever the reason is for that loneliness, and that, that I much more willing to forgive.
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I have never met him in person but I do find him this strange mixture of ego and modesty. And it reveals itself in his tweets. I hope he gets out and about rather than tweeting about perceived failure. Feel like he needs a good night out!! 😉🍻
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Interesting observation – ego and modesty. I’m not quite onboard with the ego part – but I think it is “modesty in the ivory tower”. He is humble and modest, and he wants to use his reach for good, but I feel he is a bit too far off the ground, up in his lofty tower. He definitely needs to consort with the plebs a bit. (And by informing us of his whereabouts, he is almost implying that he wants to be sprung from his high tower 😂)
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He should have taken his dad along on the trip! Hit downtown Seoul together! 😆
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I reckon he’s left that hotel…at least I hope he has!
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I personally think he already left yesterday. And that is why he tweeted the name freely.
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Ah, okay, now I’m grasping the concept! Yes, as very much an alpha male (even if he wouldn’t call himself that), RA has a VERY different view on the “letting others go first” thing. I doubt the male-female implications that you’re describing would even occur to him without someone pointing it out. Not that he is by nature as misygonistic as non-Western (and Western) cultures can inherently be, but I think that the majority of men just don’t get it. Bowing as a sign of respect to *everyone* can be great. Expecting that *everyone* automatically going ahead of you is a terrific thing, is absolutely not!
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I think his messages are contradictory – he praises the culture of respect he perceives in Korea, expressed in bowing and eye contact and letting others go first. But he also says that because he has not stepped forward by his own motivation, he has “failed” in his job. For me, these two things contradict themselves. Or is he implying that others need to step back so that he can step forward?
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Good points…much to mull over there!
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should be appalling not appealing on my comment sorry!! stupid phone!!
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Ya know, I don’t GET the culture. It’s a subservient mentality where everyone else is better than you. Where’s the self-esteem??? At this point, he should have little bit of ego to feed on.
Or perhaps he’s fishing for compliments…
Either way…. slappity slappity slappity.
Off to look at houses!
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In a nutshell – yes. I didn’t get how he can praise one culture above others, full stop. Not that I know much about Korea. But I suspect all that respect and letting others go first, comes at a price. (I wish we had some Korean ladies to chime in on that.)
Best of luck with the house hunt. Fingers crossed for the 3 roomed one with the shadowy yard. It looked so good.
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I get to see that one tomorrow, even tho the one I looked at today would suffice.
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Fingers and all toes crossed.
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I simply took it as he admires and identifies with the virtues of humility and respect for others (he has witnessed in Korea) and offered an example of how he tries to live by that philosophy. It seems he is going through a phase of introspection lately. Only problem I see is that he had to be well aware of the flood of praise such a statement would generate. Don’t get me wrong -I’m not implying he was fishing. I do believe it was stated with good intentions.
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What was it they say the road to hell is paved with? 😉 Just kidding.
Introspection – it looks like it. He’s certainly thinking about how people communicate and interact with each other. And he is sharing his philosophy. I’d love to discuss it with him. But unfortunately he prefers to stay in his echo chamber.
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Hehe touché! Good intentions or not -a discussion is more desirable than a sermon any day 😄 I want to tell you how I feel but I don’t want to talk about it can be tiresome. I would love for him to elaborate more and not be so guarded against interactive exchanges of ideas.
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You know what, I am just thinking: If this is Fandom Glasnost, maybe we are approaching an era of Fandom Perestroika. Before we know it, Richard will discuss his opinions with us online. If he’s really good, he’ll hire Wembley Stadium and put on a panel discussion. Hooray!
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Je serai avec vous dans les gradins.
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ArmitageCon ….you may be on to something 😂
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😂I have some comments and quips in my lips here, but I’ll zip it.
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Do share. *grabs popcorn*
(Or DM me. Whatever works.) 😉
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I am such a forgetful type – I have already forgotten…
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Il devrait regarder vers ses futurs engagements, vers les nouvelles voies pas ENCORE explorées, plutôt que de se morfondre sur ce qui n’a pas été ou aurait pu être. Cela démontre une grosse dose d’insécurité et de pessimisme.
Il vit dans un monde éphémère, où il reste peu de traces de son “art” (par exemple au théâtre). Beaucoup de professions laissent des traces concrètes de leurs réalisations: le peintre, le tailleur de pierre, l’architecte, le médecin, le jardinier, l’enseignant, l’employé lambda… Aujourd’hui, où un projet chasse le précédant, la notoriété est fluctuante et intemporelle, dans le milieu où il évolue. Regarder vers le passé est selon moi mortifère (cf les vanités).
En ce qui concerne la bienveillance du monde asiatique, je devrais pouvoir en parler fin août. Mais apparemment, il y aurait une barrière difficile à franchir au niveau de la communication. L’ européen avide de contacts serait perçu comme un homme venu de Mars. D’où peut-être cette mise à distance appréciée par Richard Armitage..
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I’ve been away for a couple of days so have nothing to add at this late stage, except to say this discussion has been an interesting read!
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Lucky you 😉 I am sometimes glad when I miss a controversy because I am on holiday. Otherwise I always feel obliged to say something… and that’s not always easy.
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I was only away for three days, but I don’t find working my way through the conversation threads all that easy on my mobile devices.
Frankly, the man has me completely baffled with these tweets, so even if I wanted to comment, I wouldn’t know where to start!
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LOL I know what you mean. It’s is baffling, to say the least. Although some fans disagree and don’t find it baffling at all – and soon you have yet another occasion where fans are attacking each other. Sigh. I am so tired of all this.
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On Twitter? I reblogged a post about them and haven’t seen any disparagement of him or other fans on Tumblr. Those who don’t find it baffling must be mind readers because only Richard himself knows what motivated his tweets, anything else is speculation.
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Some people take anything that RA does for gospel – and find it very hard if others criticise RA.
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